Beagling

When is it time to let go?

I have seen many relationships fail, all around me. It seems so hard for people to communicate. Needs can't be fulfilled until they are expressed, in most cases anyway. It is unrealistic for most people to expect their partner to intuitively understand their needs. Maybe the understanding comes with time for some, or for a lucky few, it is instinctive, but that kind of instinct can't be relied on all the time. Being able to express your needs is an infinitely valuable skill to have, and most people don't or can't learn it from their parents. In the same way, being able to listen to someone's needs is equally important. Parental relationships seem to be layered with so many restrictions on what is appropriate for a child to experience, which adult emotions are appropriate for a child to observe. So many times a child is told to shush when it expresses how it is feeling. How confusing! Children told they shouldn't feel something - how can feelings be controlled? (As my partner is showing me, it is the reaction that is important.) Why is it so frightening to express how you feel and what you need?... to be cont...