Friday, March 05, 2004
The Scorpio maneuver
Sting or be stung. What a way to raise a child!
One point of view: "If you push me, I perceive an attack. I am therefore justified in defending myself."
Another point of view: "I am trying to reach out to you emotionally to understand you and I do this by asking questions when I don't understand."
Not really an attack is it? Most people wouldn't think so. The Scorpio's world is precious to them, their emotional world and emotional privacy utmost. How dare anyone try and understand it, it's private. The Scorpio then seems to think that there's no accountability to the rest of the world, they can do as they like when they like, for emotional reasons that no-one has any right to pry into. So the poor Cancer child tries to learn from the Scorpio parent how to emotionally relate to people. The Cancer MUST share, it's not private at all, it is only meaningful if it is shared. The lesson learned is therefore, if I don't understand how I'm feeling, to explain it is difficult. To separate the feelings from the reaction even more difficult. The reaction might be wrong but the feeling has no wrong or right. If you question me and I think I am right (but know I am wrong), I will snip. Is it a sting? It can be if properly applied. The difference is that the Cancer is sorry for behaving so badly because they can feel the hurt they inflict more keenly than their own pain. Hard to pause for reflection until I'm forced to, and I'm not forced to until I've inflicted. This will be an interesting knot to unravel. Ah, that's it. The sting carries a venom. The snip will heal cleanly (unless the nipper has been messing around in some germiness). Get this venom out of me, no need to pass it on. (Ah, now I understand. Out, out, Damned Spot).
Sting or be stung. What a way to raise a child!
One point of view: "If you push me, I perceive an attack. I am therefore justified in defending myself."
Another point of view: "I am trying to reach out to you emotionally to understand you and I do this by asking questions when I don't understand."
Not really an attack is it? Most people wouldn't think so. The Scorpio's world is precious to them, their emotional world and emotional privacy utmost. How dare anyone try and understand it, it's private. The Scorpio then seems to think that there's no accountability to the rest of the world, they can do as they like when they like, for emotional reasons that no-one has any right to pry into. So the poor Cancer child tries to learn from the Scorpio parent how to emotionally relate to people. The Cancer MUST share, it's not private at all, it is only meaningful if it is shared. The lesson learned is therefore, if I don't understand how I'm feeling, to explain it is difficult. To separate the feelings from the reaction even more difficult. The reaction might be wrong but the feeling has no wrong or right. If you question me and I think I am right (but know I am wrong), I will snip. Is it a sting? It can be if properly applied. The difference is that the Cancer is sorry for behaving so badly because they can feel the hurt they inflict more keenly than their own pain. Hard to pause for reflection until I'm forced to, and I'm not forced to until I've inflicted. This will be an interesting knot to unravel. Ah, that's it. The sting carries a venom. The snip will heal cleanly (unless the nipper has been messing around in some germiness). Get this venom out of me, no need to pass it on. (Ah, now I understand. Out, out, Damned Spot).
// posted by Beagle @ 7:56 am 
